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Scene Etiquette

6/2/2012

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So it's occured to me over the past while that unless I have a flogger, or some other beating implement in my hand, that people assume I'm not in scene (or aftercare) where people should leave me alone.
I understand that being a "dungeon monitor" people expect to be able to ask questions of me about what I'm doing, how I do it, and if they could experience it next (since that seems to be the trend of things), however those questions should come AFTER all parties involved are clearly done doing whatever it is that they're doing. ​
Whether it is putting needles into someone, tying someone up (suspension or static) or sitting on the couch cuddling, please consider people to be not available for conversation. Once they are up and walking around again, feel free to ask whatever questions you'd like and I'm sure they will do their best to answer them then.
Up until now I've always tried to answer whatever questions I can, as quickly and politely as I can while still trying to give the "I'm busy" vibe, but it has gotten to the point of being far too regular of an occurrence. For the sake of making it easier on all of us, here is a list of things to look for that may tell you if I'm available for chit chat or not:
Good to chat:
  • I'm already chit chatting with someone else while standing or sitting on the boot black bench.
  • I'm walking around or sitting by myself in the dungeon (this does not apply to everyone as some people are left alone during aftercare. If I am in aftercare, I'm rarely alone)
  • I'm in the lobby
Not good to chat:
  • Sitting close to someone while on the couch
  • I'm in scene, actively doing some form of S&M or bondage situation (top or bottom)
  • I'm moving someone from a scene to a couch
  • I'm sitting with someone whom is brushing/playing with my hair (it may not seem like much but this is how I unwind, so please don't bother me)
  • I'm with someone, making contact with them, and not speaking on a piece of dungeon equipment
These are just a few situations to look for but basically it comes down to: Don't assume you can just come up and touch or talk to me! It doesn't matter how well you know me or not, I'm not always going to want to speak to you (and it probably isn't anything personal against you).
Granted I cannot speak for everyone that is staff at the Woodshed (or any other dungeon for that matter) but please try to keep this stuff in mind for anyone you see. Most people hate when their scenes/aftercare are interupted so please do your best not to do the same thing to other people.
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