That moment when you watch a video about someone in a nearby community passing, and even though you never knew the man himself, you feel like you've lost a dear friend. There is a bond that permeates through all leatherfolk, and it is that bond that makes describing what Leather (not the material) really is to newcomers so tough.
Leather can't, or perhaps shouldn't, be described through words. It should be felt and experienced. It's in the hug you give each other that says you're family, you're safe here, regardless of how long you've known each other. It's in the way you hold your head high during adversity, ensuring that those who need help aren't forgotten. It's in admitting when you were wrong, yet not letting that slow you down on the path to what is right. It's in the way we comfort each other through the hardest times of our lives just as intensely as through times of mediocrity and greatness. It's in making strangers part of the family, because you all share that common soul: Leather.
There's so much that goes into this lifestyle that we try to use to get ahead and better ourselves, that we often lose sight of the commonalities we share together. Everyday, this day especially though, I am thankful to have my fellow leather brothers and sisters.
Love one another and allow yourself to be loved in return.
Ignixia is an international kink and alternative sexuality educator. The following blog entries range from educational information and resources from her classes to daily musings had on things occurring in the world.