Now that I have a little time, I'd like to pose a question related to the Pride activities of this weekend, first some back story though.
This weekend was my first Pride, I've been to Gay Days Expo, but never a full Pride Parade. At one point we took a break from the parade activities to visit the local dungeon where they were hosting fundraisers for the Orlando Pulse victims. During that time friends spoke about the events, which I believe I shared the writing of already. The beginning of their speech started with asking anyone in the LGBT community to stand, instinctively I stayed seated.
As I sat there I actually started questioning why I didn't stand and realized that I was validating the prejudices and assumptions that come along with the fact that I'm in a relationship that very much looks like a typical heterosexual situation; but I'm not heterosexual. As I scanned the room looking towards the few people that stood, and the many still seated, I realized that I wasn't the only one not claiming my community.
It has become almost accepted that your current relationship is what defines your sexuality completely and that unless you have multiple partners to match each desire, then the desire must not be there. From there it, for some, simply feels wrong to stand and be counted for fear of not fitting what people expect when they think LGBT.
Once I realized what was keeping me seated, I stood.
I refused to deny that I too was part of this community. These are my siblings, my friends, my lovers, my exes, and my family.
My name is Ignixia and I'm a greysexual woman. I am LGBT.
How do you identify and (if applicable) when/how did you find your place in the community?
Saturday, June 11th, 2016 at roughly 9:00pm I was joined by some of my closest friends and chosen family; those who couldn't make it into town sent their love via email. As I looked up from finishing the NLA-O meeting, I saw them file into the dungeon space (which was already fairly packed from the meeting) until all I saw were those there for the sole purpose of honoring me.
Ignixia is an international kink and alternative sexuality educator. The following blog entries range from educational information and resources from her classes to daily musings had on things occurring in the world.